How to Stop Worrying in 3 Steps

“Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.” Thomas Carlyle

The quote above simply wants us to be in the present. Worry starts when we are so “advance mag-isip.” I mean, thinking about the future is okay, but exaggeratedly thinking about possible outcomes is unhealthy. As Sir William Osier said, be in a day-tight compartment, he meant to focus on today.

Some got the same problem too as we sometimes have this habit of always overthinking the future. We always, or may sometimes make up scenarios that may happen, if we choose one from our list of paths or decisions. He simply emphasized t

  • shut close the past
  • shut off the future
  • live the present

He didn’t mean for us to completely forget the past, nor to completely not to think about tomorrow. He meant to say that the best possible to prepare for the future is by doing our work today. The reason why you have today is because of what you’ve done in the past. And to control what to become tomorrow, it depends on what you are doing today.

Let’s take an example. Today we are tasked to list a menu for a week. What are the things we can do today? Yeah, right! We can search for the recipes and list them down. We can do grocery for the ingredients. And wait for tomorrow to come. The next day (which becomes the today now), all we need to focus is to cook the menu for the day. You don’t need to think about the menu for tomorrow because you ain’t cooking it yet. Your energy will only be wasted if you think about the meal for tomorrow. You must think on how you can cook well the meal today, because you see, you haven’t cook all of it yet. There’s still a dinner. Hope we get the point.

 “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:34 (NIV)

Only you can make yourself happy. You don’t need anyone else to do that for you. It’s only you who knows what to do. Only you can resolve your problems. Don’t be shy to cry. Accept and resolve honest feedback. Ignore people who disrespect you and the naysays. Pay attention to the people who care and love you. Lastly, always look at the brighter side!

REFERENCE: How To Stop Worrying And Start Living, Dale Carnegie (1958)