How to Stop Worrying in 3 Steps

“Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.” Thomas Carlyle

The quote above simply wants us to be in the present. Worry starts when we are so “advance mag-isip.” I mean, thinking about the future is okay, but exaggeratedly thinking about possible outcomes is unhealthy. As Sir William Osier said, be in a day-tight compartment and he meant to focus on today.

Some got the same problem too as we sometimes have this habit of always overthinking the future. We always, or may sometimes make up scenarios that may happen, and that’s not helping you or the people around you. Osier simply emphasized to

  • shut close the past
  • shut off the future
  • live the present

He didn’t mean for us to completely forget the past, nor to completely not to think about tomorrow. He meant to say that the best possible to prepare for the future is by doing our work today. The reason why you have today is because of what you’ve done in the past. And to control what becomes tomorrow depends on what you are going to do today.

Let’s take an example. Today we are tasked to list a menu for a week. What are the things we can do today? Yeah, right! We can search for the recipes and list them down. We can do grocery for the ingredients. And for now, all we need to focus on is to cook the menu for today. You don’t need to think about the menu for the next day because you ain’t cooking it yet. Your energy will only be wasted if you think about the other meals that are not to be eaten yet. You must think about how you can cook well the meal today and see the results after. Or better yet, ask for feedback or what to improve on. The day is not over though. Hope we get the point.

 “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:34 (NIV)

Only you can make yourself happy. It’s only you who knows what to do. Only you can resolve your problems. Don’t be shy to cry. Accept and resolve honest feedback. Ignore people who disrespect you and the naysays. Pay attention to the people who care and love you. Lastly, always look at the brighter side!

REFERENCE: How To Stop Worrying And Start Living, Dale Carnegie (1958)